PRAYER & DISCERNMENT
FAMILY CAN SEE A RELIGIOUS VOCATION given to a son or daugh-
ter as a great blessing. They can also consider it a threat. If you think
God is calling you to be a member of a religious community, and your
parents are opposed or have serious doubts, here are some things to keep in mind.
Have you listened to your parents’ reasons?
Allow them to tell you what their concerns are. They may want you to have a “
normal” life because they think that the celibate life is too hard and unnatural. They
may think that if you join you will abandon them and never see them again. They
may believe you need to have several years of experience after college before you
can make a decision to enter a community. They may think that you’re throwing
away your education. Maybe they’ll judge from their experience of certain members of religious communities that all religious are misfits. They may condemn the
Do your parents have doubts about your vocation? Here are
some ways to listen and talk to them about their concerns.
O.P. with his
BY FATHER ANDREW HOFER, O.P.
How to talk to your family
about your vocation
Hofer, O.P. is the
for the Province
of St. Joseph at
House of Stud-
ies in Washing-