One way tohonor our needfor intimacy is totreat all of ourrelationships,romantic alike, aslong-term ones.
“Faithfulness over the long haul People yearn for intimacy. It’s part of being human. I have met many desperately lonely people who aren’twanting for sexual partners. Theyhave sex, but they don’t have thecloseness of friendship or real intimacy. One way to honor our needfor intimacy is to treat all of ourrelationships, romantic and nonromantic alike, as long-term ones.
Living in a religious communityhas taught me the immense value ofbeing faithful to friendships, including those I’ve had to work hard at.
Knowing someone for many years,serving them daily in little ways andholding their hand as they are dying—that is true intimacy.
We don’t have one source of
energy for sex and a totally sepa-
rate one for the spiritual life. Our
capacity for love is what drives all
our deepest yearnings. As the Jesuit
priest Pedro Arrupe wrote, “Noth-
ing is more practical than finding
God, than falling in love in a quite
absolute, final way. What you are in
love with, what seizes your imagina-
tion, will affect everything. It will
decide what will get you out of bed
in the morning, what you do with
your evenings, how you spend your
weekends, what you read, whom
you know, what breaks your heart,
and what amazes you with joy and
gratitude. Fall in love, stay in love,
and it will decide everything.” =
A version of this article originallyappeared in VISION 2016. RELATEDARTICLE: VocationNetwork.org, “Doeschastity matter?”
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